Uncommon Knowledge Self Confidence Course Part 3
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The 6-Part Self Confidence Course from Roger Elliott of Uncommon Knowledge LLP :: Tutorial Three :: "First you jump off the cliff and then, you make your parachute on the way down" Anon ---------------------------------------------------------------- Hi Reader, and welcome to Tutorial 3 of the Self Confidence Course. Let's get moving right away. Get your notes from last week about the people you consider confident. If you haven't done last week's exercise yet, do it now. Remember what Aristotle said - "Whatever we learn to do, we learn by doing it". And besides, once you get started, it's fun! Good self confidence will help you for the rest of your life in ways you could hardly imagine - isn't it worth spending some time on it now? ----------------------------- QUOTE --------------------------- "..my life has taken a new turn!" "Dear Roger Thank you very much for this free Self-Confidence Course! I am so happy that I clicked on your Web-Site. Already after the first tutorial, I knew that I was going to subscribe for the CD pack. Anyway, I waited until the fifth since I wanted to test the course a little more. Since then, my life has taken a new turn! It's a step by step day to day process but I can already feel the difference. As a kid, I was taught to sit still and be quiet. I spent most of my childhood feeling unloved and even unwanted. Therefore, having confidence and self assurance has never been my strength. Listening to the CD is like listening to a very caring, understanding friend who just wants the best for me. Thanks again!" Best regards http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/offer/ --------------------------- UNQUOTE -------------------------- ---------------------------------------------------------------- This exercise builds up an unconscious pattern for confidence. One of the biggest problems with self confidence is that people spend their time trying to be less uncomfortable in a situation, or less nervous. Getting away from something is hard, and there's no guarantee you'll end up where you want to be. Just like a route map, the exercise lets your mind know where you want to go. Without a clear idea of your destination, you could end up anywhere! Now, for the first confidence model on your list from Tutorial 2, (if there's more than one), read carefully through what you wrote about them until you begin to build up a strong idea of them. Then, as long as you're somewhere you won't be disturbed for 5 minutes, close your eyes and imagine being with that person in the sort of situation where you admire their confidence. The more relaxed you are, the better this works. Focus on the way their voice sounds, the way they look, how other people interact with them, the way they stand or sit, their facial expressions, gestures and so on... ___________________________TT___________________________ Trainer Tip - Deep Relaxation on Tap Once you have used the Trainer, you will quickly become good at this sort of thing. You can use your model from above with Track 11 from CD1 - 'How to relax when you want to' and powerfully experience the 'Model Your Goal' exercise. ________________________________________________________ ---------------------------------------------------------------- Once you've got a good imagination of that person in your mind, then imagine merging with them, or drifting into them. Imagine what it's like to be that person, seeing how others react to you, how they look at you, how they talk to you, how it feels to be that person. Some people find this very easy, others take longer to become good at it. However, it is worth the effort - successful people are naturally good at this type of imaginative exercise - it's an essential ingredient for success. The Self Confidence Trainer contains audio sessions leading you through this type of exercise if you're finding it difficult. Although this may seem very simple, it is startlingly effective. If you can ride a bike, you may remember a time when it was very hard to do. Then all of a sudden, it became easy. After that, even if you haven't ridden a bike for years, you can hop back on one and off you go! ---------------------------------------------------------------- Throughout this course, I will be talking about 'unconscious learning'. If you're not familiar with the term, it may sound a little strange. It's really just psychology 'shorthand' for non-intellectual learning - learning by experience is an example. It's this type of learning that makes all the difference to self confidence. The difficulty is that a lack of self confidence often stops you from having the sort of experience that would teach you what you want to learn. This is why we use hypnotic sessions on the Self Confidence Trainer. They can teach you in this way without you having to go into the situation itself. They act as a 'bridge' to get you there. The other part of long-term self confidence is the thinking aspect. If you don't take care of this, negative thought patterns can erode your confidence over time, or even cause you to miss out on the confidence boost that can come from an achievement. ___________________________TT___________________________ Trainer Tip - Converting Experience Into Confidence To take care of the 'thinking' aspect of self confidence, the Trainer includes a whole section called 'Thinking Confidently' - Track 7, CD1. This includes a section on 'Converting' - ensuring you get a good strong boost in confidence and self esteem from your achievements. ________________________________________________________ This is how this exercise works. By imaginative rehearsal, you teach your mind to perform the skill unconsciously. So, just like with riding a bike, confidence becomes effortless. ___________________________TT___________________________ Trainer Tip - Confidence For Stressful Events There is a session on the Self Confidence Trainer that is perfectly suited to making you feel better about stressful events like public speaking. You'll find it on CD2, Track 4. Track 1 on CD2 is also excellent preparation as it gives you a 'trigger' to use to make yourself feel more confident when 'in the thick of things'! ________________________________________________________ Important Note: Some people worry that if they're copying someone else, they're not being themselves. Well, guess how confident people got that way? They learnt it somewhere! Usually this is by copying other people unconsciously while growing up, be it their parents or peers. This is partially how we form our personalities - by 'trying things on' and keeping the things we like. You can do this exercise throughout this week. The more you do it, the easier it will become and the greater the results will be. Keep at it! ---------------------------------------------------------------- One last tip for keeping your confidence is to surround yourself with optimistic, positive people and ideas. You can't expect to be at your best if people around you are always bringing you down. This doesn't mean I advocate dumping your less upbeat friends of course, just to be aware of the effect that others can have on you. And you won't find anything more motivational and inspiring than our monthly email newsletter, Inspired Minds. To subscribe, click here We'll keep your email address private and you can unsubscribe any time you want, (although we have no idea why you would! :-) ************************************************** See you next week for Tutorial 4 - Utilisation of your new skills Best Wishes Roger Elliott ---------------------------------------------------------------- To order the Self Confidence Trainer at your special subscriber rate. PS If you would like to find out more about self-hypnosis or get further help to improve your confidence go to www.hypnosisdownloads.com and take our FREE online Hypnosis course or chose one our mp3's for self improvement. |
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