Self Confidence Course Tutorial 1

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The 6-Part Self Confidence Course

from Roger Elliott of Uncommon Knowledge LLP

:: Welcome + Tutorial One ::

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Dear Subscriber,

Congratulations on discovering the unique Self Confidence
Course.

Over the next six weeks, you'll learn how to build your
self confidence and self esteem so it stays built!

My name is Roger Elliott and I'll be your guide for the
duration of the 6 tutorials. However, I can't claim all the
kudos for this fantastic course - it's only years of work
with some great colleagues that have made it possible.

I hope you're as excited about this course as we were when
we were putting it together. Months of work backed by
years of experience has created what I think is a an
unbeatable way of permanently building your self
confidence and self esteem.

But then I would say that - it's my course ! :-)

What follows is a brief introduction, followed by your first
Tutorial. Please read from here as there are several important
things to do before beginning the course.

First though, here's what one of our subscribers had to say
- I hope it inspires you!

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"...a quite remarkable change in spirit, ambition and self-confidence..."

"Dear Roger

Your Course and Self Confidence Trainer have been of
enormous use to me and I feel that others might be
encouraged by my progress.

I am sure my story is far from unique, however, I would
wish to protect my anonymity.

I now look forward to the prospect of giving briefings,
at all levels, and actively identify opportunities to do so.

The whole experience of working through the Free Course
and the Self Confidence Trainer has completely changed my
outlook.

I feel more confident and relaxed in all aspects of my life.

I also have learned to be aware and sympathetic to the
possible lack of self-confidence in others - there are
subtle ways of putting people more at ease.

Your assistance has led to a quite remarkable change
in spirit, ambition and self-confidence for which I will be
eternally grateful."

<Name removed - anonymity requested>

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The reasons we spent so much time putting the course together
are:

1) I know how it feels to be lacking self-confidence.

- The way it feels too be terrified to meet someone new.
- The horror public speaking held - even in front of
a few friends.
- The feeling that whatever the situation, I was bound
to screw up.

2) The 2nd reason is that I wish I'd had access to a
course like this when I needed it!

- Instead I had to wade through piles of self-help books
and all sorts of weird ideas before I realised what
self confidence is really about.

I was lucky; I didn't get caught in what I call 'Self Help Hell'.
We wrote this course to ensure others don't either.

3) In my current job as an emotional intelligence trainer
and personal coach, I am always blown away by what people
can achieve once they find their self confidence.

- I think everyone should have that opportunity.

4) There is so much stuff out there which claims to be
'the answer' whilst just complicating the issue. You'll
find this course so powerful because of its simplicity.

I want you to be able to fulfil your ability and potential
without getting 'side-tracked' or duped, and without
having to waste any more energy struggling with poor self
confidence or low self esteem.

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Achievement and happiness begins with self confidence
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As you may know Subscriber, having poor self confidence
or low self esteem can make many things really difficult.

Conversely, when you have self confidence that is solid
and reliable, most things become easy AND fun as well!

Good self confidence allows you to achieve the real goals
in your life whether they are to do with work,
relationships or just being comfortable with yourself.

Without self-confidence it's difficult to fulfil your
potential in any area...

- If you're giving a presentation and you're constantly
worrying about how you're coming across, that's a waste
of brain power!

How much more compelling, exciting or persuasive would
you be if all of your attention was focused powerfully
on the job in hand?

- If you're talking to someone you'd like to get to know
better, how will you come across if you're always
thinking 'Am I saying the right thing?', 'Do they like me?',
and so on...

- If you're going out socially, you need to be able to
ENJOY IT! That's what socialising is about!
People need other people, but without self-confidence,
you miss out on the joy that good relationships bring.

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The Unthinkable Is Possible!
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Think about it now. When are you at your most relaxed,
happy, funny, or chatty? I'll bet it's when you're with
people you're most comfortable with. Maybe old friends,
or family perhaps.

Now, what if you could feel that good meeting new people,
in a meeting at work or doing public speaking? What if
you could really feel 'I am what I am, take it or leave it!'?

How would things be if you could go into ANY situation
with curiosity and a sense of fun, with the thought
'Whatever happens here, I'll be fine'?

I'm here to tell you this is not only possible, it's pretty
easy too! But it will take a little work from you. Just keep
the benefits in mind.

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What will it mean to you to be 100% confident?
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Not arrogant, not loud and annoying, just easily,
calmly confident about who you are and what you can do.

It's essential for your motivation that you do this.
Think a little about it now. What will those old difficult
situations be like once you are self confident? How will you
feel with that person that currently causes you problems?

Yep, you can allow yourself to get a bit excited, because
it's coming your way - the automatic ability to be fully
self-confident and allow yourself to achieve everything
you're capable of.

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Prepare To Succeed
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I'll be asking you to do practical exercises throughout
the course. Sometimes they might not make sense to you,
they may even be a little hard at first.

*** Please, please, please - just do it!
In 6 weeks time I know you'll be glad you did.

But don't take my word for it...

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"...fantastic..."

"Dear Roger

I've just completed the Self Confidence Course and it was
fantastic! I took part in a weekend workshop with Uncommon
Knowledge a year ago and bought the Self Confidence Trainer
CD pack then, which I have been using regularly since to
great effect!

The course has really consolidated the work I had been
doing with the CD's, and I have felt a real difference in
myself.

So thankyou, I really appreciate your help, and I have
recommended the course to friends who I feel would benefit
from it too!!"

Best wishes
Mairead Ussher, Hove, UK [mairead_ussher@LineOne.net]
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you can do so here:

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So, Subscriber

Welcome to the first Tutorial of your Self Confidence course.

Over the years here at Uncommon Knowledge, we have helped
shy people be socially confident, terrified people talk confidently
in front of hundreds, we've even helped victims of disasters
and traumas be confident enough to continue with their
lives.

When it comes to building self confidence, we've had a whole
lot of experience.

The reason we're so pleased with this course is because it lets
us share what we have learned with you.

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THE SELF CONFIDENCE COURSE

Over the next 5 weeks, you'll get one tutorial each week.
One tutorial a week ensures that your new confident attitude
has time to 'sink in'. In this way, your self confidence
will become a habit, not an effort!

During the course, you will be asked to do things that might not make
sense at first. We'd like to ask you to JUST DO IT!

One of the things we'll be talking about is that you can't have
confidence something will work until you've done it, and
have got the evidence!

Also, it's better if you do each Tutorial each week so that the ideas
and new experiences have time to 'sink in' before the next tutorial.

And, if you are serious about building your self confidence, you will
need to take about 15 minutes each week to complete the course
requirements. 15 MINUTES A WEEK for something that could radically
change your life for the better. Worth it? We think so.

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OK, so on to the nitty-gritty! This is the way the course goes
together.

Tutorial 1 (this one) : Evaluation of the current situation
Tutorial 2: Preparation for success
Tutorial 3: Implementation of your confident attitude
Tutorial 4: Utilisation of your new skills
Tutorial 5: Consolidation of self confidence
Tutorial 6: Realisation of your goals

Now before we start, there's one more thing I'd like to ask
you to do.

Make a document called 'Confidence course notes' and type at the top
www.self-confidence.co.uk. Keep it in your personal documents folder.
This way, if you lose your emails, or anything goes wrong with your
email server, you'll know where to find us. This will be where you
keep your course notes as we progress.

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About ‘Trainer Tips’

Throughout the course, you’ll notice boxed-off sections
like this one. If you own the Self Confidence Trainer,
these will help you get the most from your Pack when
using it in conjunction with the course.

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OK, so let's get going.

Firstly, the 3 biggest myths of self confidence. These are the most
common things we hear from confidence clients.

1) "You have to be born with it."

Not true, self confidence is a set of skills that can be learned,
just like learning to drive or play a game.

2) "If you've had your confidence destroyed, it's gone for good."

Wrong. It may take a greater leap of faith to start building it back
up, but once you're there you'll be much hardier than you were before
and less likely to have your confidence shaken again.

3) "I'll know I'm confident when I can be sure I'll succeed at
something new".

How can you know you'll succeed when you've never done something
before?

Confidence is much more about tolerating uncertainty:
being cool with not knowing what is going to happen.

It's important that you look at these and see if you have been
thinking along any of these lines.

In your notes, write down whether you think any of these are
true. I don't want you to change your mind now, but it will be
interesting to look back in a few weeks time to see how your
ideas about self confidence have changed.

Great self confidence can be learned, and you're going to learn it!

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Trainer Tip – Assessing the Situation

With reference to number 3) above, you can use Track 2 on CD1
‘The TEST Model’ to assess your ‘confidence readiness’
for a new or existing situation. This will show you
exactly where to focus your efforts to increase your
self confidence.

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Now onto your first exercise.

*IMPORTANT* - Although these answers are for your own reference,
please write them down now, it's a vital first step, and
you will need them later.

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Exercise 1

The essential first step to building your self-confidence is to
assess what 'self confidence' means to you.

Just saying 'I want to be more confident' is like saying
'I just want to travel'! Where? How? When?

So, an example might be: "When I am with a new group of
people,
I want to be able to relax, join in conversations and ask
people about themselves."

In your course notes, write your answers to the following questions:

1) What does 'self confidence' mean to you? Generally, your answer
should start with "I want to be able to..." or "I want to be..." Stay
away from "I don't want to be...", "I want to be less..." and other
'avoiding' statements. You need to know where you going, not where
you've come from!

2) In what situations do you need more confidence?

3) Where do you already have it? - For example: with your family,
friends, at work…? Around which of the following are you confident in your
abilities? Cooking, gardening, vocabulary, spelling,
exercising, driving? What do you just know you can do without
thinking about it?

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Trainer Tip - A Confidence Trigger

On the Self Confidence Trainer, you'll find a
hypnotic session that is designed to give you easy
access to feelings of confidence. As part of the
session, you'll be asked about times you have felt
good. You can use your answers to question 3 in
this exercise.

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4) Write down one thing you will be able to do once you have the
confidence you need. This should be something tangible, like making
a particular phone call, saying something to a particular person,
giving a presentation, speaking up in a situation. We will refer
back to this later.

Write these answers down now. When you think you've got all of them;
stop, take a deep breath and then think some more until you come up
with others.

Really, please do this now. We will be using your answers
next week. We know that people who really apply themselves
to this course get great results!

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Trainer Tip - Rehearsing Success

Track 4 on CD2 enables you to rehearse things
going really well in a difficult situation. This
is an amazingly simple, but incredibly effective
technique when done properly (it's usually done
badly in the form of 'Positive Thinking' !)

You can use your answer to 4) in this exercise.
This will make you feel much more capable and
optimistic about success in this area, and
drastically increase the likelihood of things
going well.

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That's it! You've completed Tutorial 1. It does take a little
effort, but the payback will be worth it!

Finally, thanks for choosing me as your Confidence Coach.

I appreciate you giving me the chance to share this
life-changing experience with you.

See you next week, for Tutorial 2 - Preparation for success!

Warmest Regards

Roger Elliott
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk

P.S. If you have ordered your Self Confidence CD pack, I promise
your order will be on its way to you right away. Delivery times
are as follows:

UK : 1-2 days, USA : 4 days, Europe : 3-4 days, Rest of World: 5-6 days

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