Self Confidence Course Tutorial 2

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The 6-Part Self Confidence Course

from Roger Elliott of Uncommon Knowledge LLP

:: Tutorial Two ::

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Hi Subscriber,

I hope you've had a good week and you're ready for this week's tutorial.
This week we're looking at 'models of confidence'.

One of the quickest and most effective ways to understand how
someone else goes about things is to 'model' them. This means
copying their outward appearance and so getting an idea of how they
feel on the inside.

This is so effective that some sports clinics have failing
athletes do this - they show them video of their winning days
including races, interviews, news footage and have them copy
what they were doing at the time.

And think of the apprentice system that still survives in some
occupations. The apprentice would 'pick up' how to do things from
the master just by being around him or her. When you really apply
yourself to this you'll find the difference astounding.

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Exercise - your model of confidence
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Think of one person who you consider to be self-confident in a
situation where you would like to be (see your answers to the
exercise in Tutorial 1). Write down their name. Do this for every
situation in which you would like more self-confidence.

Once you have a 'confidence model' for every situation,
write down what it is that lets you know that that person
is confident - make it specific. For example, rather than,
"the way he looks", write "his face is relaxed and smiling a little".

Cover all aspects of the person:

- facial expression
- posture
- voice tonality (loud, soft, deep...)
- gestures
- the way they dress
- how they interact with others
- how others react to them
- anything else you notice about them

And if you can't remember enough details for a really
good description, study them during the week before the
next tutorial (without letting them know it of course!)

We'll be using your answers in next week's Tutorial.

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Important: When describing the person, it is vital to be as
specific as possible. It's no good writing that their posture is
confident-looking. It's confidence you're learning to make here,
so you need to know its ingredients!
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Now I know it can be easy to lose a bit of momentum after
the first burst of effort, so here's a great bit of feedback
to help motivate you:

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I have just completed your Self Confidence Course and received the
CD Trainer weeks ago. I had very good results with the course
and the CD's.

I am more relaxed now in situations where before I was riddled with
anxiety. I can enjoy the moment more, instead of anticipating
what may happen, can happen, how I will react, how they will
react, how I come across etc.

Now I do not get down on myself as much, and my self-confidence
is not effected so easily. I am able to offer myself, services,
opinions, and advice, whereas before I wouldn't dare. I have so
many dreams and desires for my life. I feel much more confident
that they are possible.

Thank you so much for the course and CD trainer. Do not hesitate
to contact me about future programs/products.

Colleen Edwards, Chattanooga, TN, USA

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It's just fantastic when we hear back from people like this.
And as I said in the last tutorial, so many people have told us
about the results they have had using the course and
the CD pack together that we've made it easier for you to do.

You can read about it here:

http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/offer2.htm

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Trainer Tip

- Performance Patterning
and Confidence Mistakes

Problems with self confidence and self esteem are
often maintained by habitual patterns of thought,
often created in childhood or adolescence. If you
find that you often put yourself down, blow
problems out of proportion or 'prepare to fail',
the following 2 sessions from the CD will be
invaluable to you.

Track 2 on CD2 - 'Performance Patterning' teaches
you an easy-to-use 4-step thought strategy that
will help you stay calm in the face of adversity
and 'prepare to succeed'.

Track 7 on CD1 tells you about 3 common 'thinking
mistakes' people make. Once you spot them, it's
much easier to avoid them!

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Congratulations for completing Tutorial 2. Next week in Tutorial 3 -
Implementation of Confident Attitudes, you'll really begin to
experience some of the benefits of your work so far.

Best Wishes

Roger Elliott
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk

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subscriber rate:
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