Self Confidence Course Tutorial 3

_________________________________________________________

The 6-Part Self Confidence Course

from Roger Elliott of Uncommon Knowledge LLP

:: Tutorial Three ::

_________________________________________________________

"First you jump off the cliff and then,
you make your parachute on the way down" Anon

Hi Subscriber, and welcome to Tutorial 3 of the Self Confidence
Course. Let's get moving right away.

Get your notes from last week about the people you consider confident.
If you haven't done last week's exercise yet, do it now.

Remember what Aristotle said -
"Whatever we learn to do, we learn by doing it".

And besides, once you get started, it's fun! Good self confidence
will help you for the rest of your life in ways you could hardly
imagine - isn't it worth spending some time on it now?

-------------------- QUOTE --------------------

“..my life has taken a new turn!”

"Dear Roger

Thank you very much for this free Self-Confidence Course!

I am so happy that I clicked on your Web-Site. Already after
the first tutorial, I knew that I was going to subscribe
for the CD pack. Anyway, I waited until the fifth since I
wanted to test the course a little more.

Since then, my life has taken a new turn! It's a step by
step day to day process but I can already feel the
difference.

As a kid, I was taught to sit still and be quiet. I spent
most of my childhood feeling unloved and even unwanted.

Therefore, having confidence and self assurance has
never been my strength.

Listening to the CD is like listening to a very caring,
understanding friend who just wants the best for me.

Thanks again!”

Best regards
Veris Liebers, Cologne, Germany

http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/offer3.htm
-------------------- UNQUOTE --------------------

----------
Exercise
----------

This exercise builds up an unconscious pattern for confidence.
One of the biggest problems with self confidence is that people spend
their time trying to be less uncomfortable in a situation, or less
nervous. Getting away from something is hard, and there's no
guarantee you'll end up where you want to be.

Just like a route map, the exercise lets your mind know where you
want to go. Without a clear idea of your destination, you could end
up anywhere!

Now, for the first confidence model on your list from Tutorial 2,
(if there's more than one), read carefully through what you
wrote about them until you begin to build up a strong idea
of them. Then, as long as you're somewhere you won't be
disturbed for 5 minutes, close your eyes and imagine being
with that person in the sort of situation where you admire
their confidence.

The more relaxed you are, the better this works. Focus on the
way their voice sounds, the way they look, how other people
interact with them, the way they stand or sit, their facial
expressions, gestures and so on…

________________________TT__________________________

Trainer Tip - Deep Relaxation on Tap

Once you have used the Trainer, you will quickly
become good at this sort of thing. You can use
your model from above with Track 11 from CD1 -
'How to relax when you want to' and powerfully
experience the 'Model Your Goal' exercise.

____________________________________________________

--------
Sidebar: If you need help relaxing, why not check out the
free self hypnosis course at our site:
http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/
--------

Once you've got a good imagination of that person in your mind, then
imagine merging with them, or drifting into them. Imagine what it's
like to be that person, seeing how others react to you, how they look
at you, how they talk to you, how it feels to be that person.

Some people find this very easy, others take longer to become good
at it. However, it is worth the effort - successful people are
naturally good at this type of imaginative exercise - it's an
essential ingredient for success. The Self Confidence Trainer
contains audio sessions leading you through this type of
exercise if you're finding it difficult.

Although this may seem very simple, it is startlingly effective.
If you can ride a bike, you may remember a time when it was
very hard to do. Then all of a sudden, it became easy. After
that, even if you haven't ridden a bike for years, you can
hop back on one and off you go!

--------------------------------------------------
An Important Note on The 'Unconscious Mind'
--------------------------------------------------

Throughout this course, I will be talking about
'unconscious learning'. If you're not familiar with
the term, it may sound a little strange. It's
really just psychology 'shorthand' for
non-intellectual learning - learning by experience
is an example.

It's this type of learning that makes all the
difference to self confidence. The difficulty is
that a lack of self confidence often stops you from
having the sort of experience that would teach you
what you want to learn.

This is why we use hypnotic sessions on the Self
Confidence Trainer. They can teach you in this way
without you having to go into the situation itself.

They act as a 'bridge' to get you there.

The other part of long-term self confidence is the
thinking aspect. If you don't take care of this,
negative thought patterns can erode your confidence
over time, or even cause you to miss out on the
confidence boost that can come from an achievement.

________________________TT__________________________

Trainer Tip

- Converting Experience Into Confidence

To take care of the 'thinking' aspect of self
confidence, the Trainer includes a whole section
called 'Thinking Confidently' - Track 7, CD1.
This includes a section on 'Converting' - ensuring
you get a good strong boost in confidence and self
esteem from your achievements.

____________________________________________________

This is how this exercise works. By imaginative
rehearsal, you teach your mind to perform the skill
unconsciously.

So, just like with riding a bike, confidence
becomes effortless.

________________________TT__________________________

Trainer Tip

- Confidence For Stressful Events

There is a session on the Self Confidence Trainer
that is perfectly suited to making you feel better
about stressful events like public speaking. You'll
find it on CD2, Track 4.

Track 1 on CD2 is also excellent preparation as it
gives you a 'trigger' to use to make yourself feel
more confident when 'in the thick of things'!

____________________________________________________

Important Note:

Some people worry that if they're copying someone else, they're not
being themselves. Well, guess how confident people got that way?
They learnt it somewhere! Usually this is by copying other people
unconsciously while growing up, be it their parents or peers. This is
partially how we form our personalities - by 'trying things on' and
keeping the things we like.

You can do this exercise throughout this week. The more you do it,
the easier it will become and the greater the results will be. Keep
at it!

-------------------

One last tip for keeping your confidence is to surround yourself
with optimistic, positive people and ideas. You can't expect to be
at your best if people around you are always bringing you down.

This doesn't mean I advocate dumping your less upbeat friends of
course, just to be aware of the effect that others can have on you.

And you won't find anything more motivational and inspiring than
the Uncommon Knowledge newsletter. It only comes once a quarter
at the moment, but I think it's really worth the wait. To
subscribe, go to:

http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/newsletter.html

We'll keep your email address private and you can unsubscribe any
time you want, (although we have no idea why you would! :-)

*************************

See you next week for Tutorial 4 - Utilisation of your new skills

Best Wishes

Roger Elliott
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk

--------------------------------------------------

To order the Self Confidence Trainer at your special
subscriber rate:
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/offer3.htm

--------------------------------------------------

(C) Uncommon Knowledge LLP 2004
12 Queen Square, Brighton, UK BN1 3FD
Tel: +44 (0)1273 776770 Fax: +44 (0)1273 774427