Self Confidence Course Tutorial 4

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The 6-Part Self Confidence Course

from Roger Elliott of Uncommon Knowledge LLP

:: Tutorial Four ::

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Hi Subscriber - we're now halfway through the Self Confidence
Course. You're showing you're serious about developing self
confidence. In the long run, this sort of perseverance and courage
to try something new is what truly builds solid confidence.

Now on with the course and Tutorial 4. Last week, you started to lay
down a pattern within your mind for the way you want things to be.
This week we're going to take things a step further. Firstly, read
over what you have written in your course notes so far, just to get
you in the swing of things. Do this now before reading further,
paying particular attention to your answers to the questions in
Tutorial 1.

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Exercise
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Now you have read over your notes, get yourself comfortable and ready
to do this week's exercise.

Imagine you have been granted 3 wishes. One of your wishes is to have
the self confidence you want. You go to bed tonight and during the
night miraculously your wish is granted. When you wake up in the
morning, you have all the confidence you need. What is life like?

Close your eyes and really begin to explore this fantasy. Imagine
going to bed, doing your nighttime routine, switching off the lights,
getting comfortable in bed and that lovely feeling as you begin to
drift off…

This is a fantastic way to use your imagination. (After all, you
probably use it to scare yourself enough - imagining things going
wrong, why not use it to help yourself for a change?)

In your fantasy, answer the following questions:

1) How do you feel when you get up in the morning?
2) What do you look like in those situations that used to be a problem?
3) How do you sound?
4) What is your facial expression like?
5) What do others notice about you that is different?
6) How do you think about those things that used to be a problem?
7) What do you do during your day that you didn't before?
8) Work at doing this exercise. The more detail you include the better.

This could be the most important 15 minutes you have ever spent.

Afterwards, write in your notes the things you noticed about the newly
confident you. This will be very useful for future exercises. Also,
as I've already said, you MUST know where you're going if you're going
to get there. This exercise provides the target for your conscious
and unconscious mind to move towards.

Make the effort to do this exercise now - you'll be glad you did!

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Trainer Tip - Experience Your 'Miracle'

The above exercise is best done when relaxed for 2
main reasons:

1) Your imagination works better when you are
relaxed (after all, think about dreaming - the most
incredible imaginative process you can create!)

2) When you are relaxed, you break out of habitual
patterns of anxiety or under-confidence. This makes
it much easier to see yourself performing well.

Therefore, the best time to do the above exercise
is after one of the hypnotic deep relaxation
sessions on the CDs - Track 11, CD1, Track 1, CD2,
or Track 4, CD2.

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Confidence Tip: Things You Can't Do !
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This is a really common habit I've noticed people get into
if they're feeling a bit down. You think of something other
people can do and then feel bad because you can't do it too.
Have you ever noticed yourself doing that?

Of course it's natural to want to be able to compare favourably
with others, but consider this:

*There will ALWAYS be more things you can't do than things
you can do*

The World is huge, and possibilities are endless!

So, by the law of averages, you are always more likely to
be able to think of something you can't so than something
you can.

So don't let your mind play tricks on you! If you find yourself
doing this, deliberately change the contents of your thoughts
to things you *have* learnt to do in the past.

This way, you will end up feeling more capable, better about
yourself, and you're more likely to start tackling some of
those things you'd like to be able to do!

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Trainer Tip

- More On Thinking Confidently

If you find that you frequently think in ways
similar to the above, use Track 7 on CD1 'How to
Think Confidently' and Track 9 'How confident
people view the World - the keystone of confident
thinking'.

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-------------------QUOTE-------------------

“It made a world of difference.”

Roger, your course was very helpful to me. I ordered the
CDs when I started the course.

I am trying to pass my state's court reporting exam. I have
taken several tests and have always gotten extremely
nervous and panicked. I received your CD a few weeks before
the last exam. It made a world of difference.

This is the first test that I have taken that I was in
control of my emotions. I know it had to be because of
your course because that is the only thing I did
differently.

Even if I didn't pass this exam, I now know how to
relax so I know I will pass the next one.

Thanks for a great program.

Tamara, <anonymity requested>

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Next week we'll be doing Tutorial 5 - Consolidation of self
confidence.

Good luck!

Roger Elliott
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk

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