Roger ElliottIf you feel that your confidence needs building, or that you are low in self esteem, you are not alone. Since 2001, over a quarter of a million people have been helped by our free confidence building email course.
Self-Confidence.co.uk is run by Uncommon Knowledge, a team of self confidence therapists, psychologists and trainers dedicated to spreading reliable, helpful and easy-to-absorb information on the most common psychological difficulties faced today through professional psychotherapy and self-improvement courses.
So if you are lacking confidence or need to improve your self esteem then you can relax. You have found the web's most reliable, practical and effective self help site for developing confidence and raising self esteem.
Roger Elliott
Managing Director
Uncommon Knowledge
If you have spent a while looking around for help with self confidence or self esteem, it's my guess that you will have come across ALL sorts of stuff, all promising the same thing.
It is my experience that nothing worthwhile comes without effort.
BUT! It has to be the right sort of effort, and aimed in the right direction. You can pour blood, sweat and tears into many self esteem ideas and end up worse off than when you started.
Many of the self help books, online programs, websites, ebooks, therapists, counselors (the list is endless) make one fundamental mistake when it comes to self confidence and self esteem.
This is their mistake...
Avoid Self Help Hell
Good self confidence and self esteem comes from a decreased focus on the self (less self consciousness), and most of these self help approaches increase that focus. They literally lock you in Self Help Hell. The harder you try to improve your confidence, the worse you feel.
You will find that the free course, and our CD pack that I'll tell you about in a minute, work the opposite way, to help you get into the natural groove of the self confident person.
How can I be so confident about this? After all, surely if so many people are doing it that way, it must be right way to do things, right? Wrong.
Why Self Improvement is a Mine Field
Although you can rely on professionals in other areas, it doesn't really work like that in the psychology field.
In engineering, yes.
In IT, yes.
In office management, yes.
In these areas, what works is generally used. There's a bottom line - money.
But in psychology, things are different. The fact that it is so hard to test human experience makes agreement difficult. And everyone has their own opinion.
Not long ago, an extremely famous chat show host was heard to say:
Due to a report released in 2002 we now know that is completely untrue (as we always suspected).
Low self esteem is a problem, but it does not lead to nearly as much violence, drug taking, teenage pregnancy etc as was thought.
This is yet another example of bad ideas making peoples' lives more difficult instead of easier.
So this is what we recommend:
Outrageous claims are just that - outrageous.
So Who Am I to Say All This?
I work as a therapist, personal coach and trainer. My company, Uncommon Knowledge LLP, which I run with my fellow director, Mark Tyrrell, spreads cutting-edge information on psychology worldwide through our courses and websites. And we have been doing this since 1996.
We frequently work one-to-one with people who have:
o A major confidence crisis
o A lack of faith in themselves to take on new challenges
o Difficulty being assertive
o Fear of confrontation
o An extremely low opinion of themselves
o Difficulty in one area such as public speaking
o Social phobia
Mark Tyrrell, my co-director, and co-author of the Self Confidence Trainer CD pack has:
o Just completed a book on self esteem for Arrow publishing (US) called 'The Giant Within' (you can see it on Amazon).
o Recently presented seminars on 'How to Lift Low Self Esteem' to over 2000 health professionals in the UK. It's running again next year because it was so popular.
o Has also been delivering a seminar on bullying.
And between us, we have trained thousands of people in our workshops, seminars and courses. Many of them to become professional coaches, counselors and therapists in their own right. So whether you choose to buy our Self Confidence Trainer CD pack, or just subscribe to the free confidence course, you can be confident that what you are getting is solid, well-founded and practically tested in real life.
Best Wishes,
Roger Elliott
Director, Uncommon Knowledge LLP.